Day 12 – Being a “mature” mother has many great benefits. One is
wiser and way calmer. In fact it really
only has one downside. Toddler.
Birthday. Parties. I can easily imagine that for all moms over
40 with “typical” children they are simply dreadful. I am here to tell you that when you have a
child who is very busy, language delayed and with a few behavior quirks they
are absolute hell on earth. When Baby
Girl was in preschool I swear to you it seemed we got invited to one a
week. That was all well and good when I
had back up and Big Girl and I could two man team the situation but then she
had the nerve to up and go to college. I
was left to face the brutal birthday season all alone. There were those indoor gym places (I don’t
gym), the jumpy places (I don’t jump), the over the top themed parties at the
clubhouse (alright, alright I know that used to be me), pool parties (an
absolute no without Big Girl backup) and then, there is…THE PARK. Once, just once, I made the mistake of taking
her to a party there alone. I almost
died people. Died. It was the single most stressful hour of my
life. I could not keep up with her –
remember she was BLURRY. She would not
come to me when I called her. She did
not understand the danger of strangers, the street, splinters or jumping off
the top of the play structure. She did
not care about the cake or the presents or even socializing with the other
party goers. The tantrum she threw when
it was time to go will go down in history.
You may be asking why I went week after week. When you are trying to face the facts early
on there is a strong desire to try and experience the “normal” while teetering between
denial and acceptance. Luckily our
toddler years are over, I survived and Baby Girl loves a party – she will even get off
the slide happily when asked. #30facesofautism
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